Parenting is a sweet feeling! However, as easy as parenting sounds, uneasy lies the background work that goes into fine-tuning the lives of these kids. However, we are quick to exclaim “awwn” when we see their outlook. As we always say, these kids need utmost attention because they are naturally wired to be vulnerable. Parents actually go through a whole lot in taking care of kids and encounter serious
problems in the process. We would be highlighting a few of them below;
The Time Factor
Time is a very big word when it comes to kids. They need it like they need air! However it could be a challenging one to give your child ample time especially for parents who are career-inclined. Some actually wish they could provide time, but are not able to do so due to other numerous yet important aspects of their lives that they are supposed to keep up with. Try as much as possible to create ample time for your children. It would help in their growing process.
Parents are not tender towards their children. Sometimes the ones who are could end up overdoing it by being too emotional. Learn to understand different points when tenderness is needed and when it is least necessary. Be firm with them when you need to as it would make them understand the importance of reality. In all, learn to understand the logic of balance. Do not overdo any of them!
The Emotional Factor
Asides other responsibilities attached to parenting, you are emotionally responsible for your child. So, when it seems like there is a huge vacuum in terms of emotional intelligence not being able to put your emotions in check (especially anger) while dealing with children and not being able to acknowledge their feelings. Emotional intelligence should mean acknowledging their feelings, being emphatic and tailoring
your feelings to suit any given situation that involves your kids.
The Moral Factor
Sometimes ignoring the moral aspect of child growth could lead to a wide range of problems. This might make children comfortable with the idea that the world does not revolve around values. In this vein, they could grow up giving you more problems as a parent due to lack of values. To avoid this problem, they should understand that values are a must and they are life’s shaping agents. In this vein, they would grow to appreciate every bit of value that was instilled in them.
The Decision Making Factor
For parents, this is one of the toughest processes. Since children are minors, the burden of creating a preliminary pathway for them is done by their parents; hence a lot of decision making goes into this process; you decide the schools they are enrolled into, you decide the kinds of friends they meet with and a whole lot of others. This could be very tasking because you could also be making a wrong decision
for your kids, so you make conscious efforts to think certain things through before making the decision for the kids so that you are sure about your decision.
Ineffective communication could lead to communication problems especially when the children happen to be at the receiving end. Communicating without encouraging proper feedback from children makes the conversing process automatically void; hence a lot of parents turn communication to a mechanical act by just doing the talking alone without encouraging them to err their views and standpoint.
Encourage their standpoint and make them talk to you as often they need to.
The Financial Factor
This is one very important aspect of parenting; being able to take care of the needs of your children financially. In a country like Nigeria where an average family lives on barely a dollar per day, parenting is seemingly a herculean task because a lot of parents find it difficult to completely cater for their children. In this case, parents should make efforts towards giving their children the best life ever because they
deserve it. They should make efforts towards becoming financially capable to take responsibility for the lives of their kids.
In all, do everything within your power to correct whatsoever anomaly that is associated with your own peculiar style of parenting. Make sure that whatsoever you end up doing is the best action and decision for your kids!